Buddha Siddhartha gave good advice[1] on how to select a teacher and then how to relate to that teacher once selected. I have adapted these points to this situation.

  • First we need to assess if the teacher’s motivations are good. We can tell if teachers are motivated by greed, hate and confusion, by carefully examining their deeds, words and thoughts.
    • Is the teacher overly pushy in getting people to come to his/her classes or workshops? (especially repeat workshops)
    • Does the practitioner work to make participants stronger to face life or do they create unnecessary dependence?
    • Does the practitioner promote an attitude of compassion and understanding of all or do they denigrate certain groups? (e.g. males or females, perpetrators or victims, various religious or political groupings.)


  • Once we place trust in a good person we do not need to accept everything they say merely on the basis of faith. We must verify for ourselves whether what we have accepted on good faith is true or false. We can do this by a careful examination of how things have come to be. One of the most important things is to look find teachers who emphasize that the effort of mindfulness/meditation is focused on awareness not control.  Interestingly a sense of control and efficacy can follow from that

[1] Kalupahana David J & Indriani (1982)  pp 199-201
The Way of Siddhartha; A Life of The Buddha
Boulder & London